Sixty years ago my father married my mother and the Weber family became conjoined with the McKenna family. My 4 siblings and I enjoyed many good times and have scores of memories with Aunts, Uncles, and 35 first cousins. Today with many of these cousins having married, having kids and grandkids, the direct family members number well over 100 and probably closer to 200. That is quite an accumulation of family stemming from a single wedding 60 years ago.
Thirty-one years ago, my older sister Eileen married Gary and the Cota-Weber union was formed. This past weekend their oldest of four children, my nephew Eric, married Kara. The cycle starts anew. The Cota-Hornak era has officially begun.
The events of this weekend got me thinking that marriage is much more than a ceremony joining a man and woman. It’s much greater than a Wedding Day on the calendar when 2 people commit to each other for a lifetime. Marriage is the joining of families. Weber-McKenna, Cota-Weber, and now Cota-Hornak. The decision of 2 individuals in love unites entire families forever.
I count myself fortunate as the vast majority of my family members genuinely like each other – especially impressive in an era where families divorce, blend and re-invent themselves continuously.
I believe that my siblings, their families, and I still all still love and enjoy seeing each other because we have followed a few basic principles that are based on respect.
Does your extended family observe a tradition of respect for their newlyweds?